Life is a constant push-and-pull. And along this quest, most of the time you choose to hurt yourself to salvage the happiness of other people.
When are you going to choose “you”?
In this blog, I’ll introduce basic steps on how you can genuinely love yourself whatever the odds are.
1. Look at your inner self to genuinely love yourself
It’s very common that in our society, people are obsessed with physical beauty, particularly on social media as influenced by aggressive beauty campaigns.
This phenomenon has brainwashed us into believing that physical attractiveness is tantamount to personal happiness and success.
In order to genuinely love yourself, you have to learn how to stop giving value to people based on physical attractiveness, which includes yourself. Most especially yourself.
Why? If you will continue to believe in the idea that your physical attractiveness is the ultimate way and means to happiness and success, you will never achieve it. There are a lot of factors to consider instead of physical attractiveness that is definitely more meaningful and certainly more relevant.
Remember that your love for yourself must be able to surpass the superficiality of self for it to become sincere and honest.
Always remind yourself that people are NOT their physical appearance. And like everyone else, you are what your actions, your words, your deeper thoughts, your aspirations. You are what you fight for. You are NOT your crooked nose, dry lips, or your waistline.
You are what you have chosen yourself to be.
2. Be your own best friend to genuinely love yourself
Do you trust other people more than you trust yourself? If yes, why is it easier for you to trust other people than trust yourself? Maybe because you are afraid to be liable to your actions and you always seek validation.
But imagine a world wherein your best friend is yourself.
You will ask yourself to go visit a park and simply unwind and appreciate the life that you have. Treat yourself, and keep it going until you’re utterly convinced that your new best friend is totally in love with you!
Woe yourself as if you were trying to win YOU over. Do all the pretty things for yourself, because you need to learn to stop depending solely upon others to do them for you.
With this, one day you will find yourself the best for You and the people you love.
3. Enjoy the ride to genuinely love yourself
They say that life is not a marathon, it’s a slow walk along the boulevard. A friendly competition here and there is okay, but you have to set your own parameter for success in life.
It will not be an easy walk, but it will be worth the journey.
When you feel like competing and comparing your social status, success, happiness, wealth, or relationships with other people, just remember that she has a different lane to walk- her own destiny to fulfill. This way, you will be more focused, fulfilled, and contented.
4. Alway give yourself a hug to genuinely love yourself
Sometimes, with all the battles that you have to endure every day, you think that you need comfort from other people. No. You need you.
Give yourself a warm hug to remind yourself that things will be better, and to make you feel that you are not alone, weak, and incompetent in dealing with all of your pains.
The best comforts are from home. When you are with yourself, remember that you are at home.
These are simple ways to genuinely love yourself. You only have one life- live for it.
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